Saturday, April 16, 2011

The Search Continues...

I just couldn't bring myself to go out with the 50-year old. I called IJL back and told them that I had "second thoughts" and just didn't feel comfortable with an age difference like that (and never will, for that matter). 

They were less than forgiving. The woman I spoke with, who is a minion of the matchmaker, and not the matchmaker herself, said "well that's very disappointing...we picked him because we felt he was a good match for you, despite the age difference".  

So tell me, how is someone a good match if it creeps you out? Really? Anyway, she proceeded to tell me that they would continue to find matches for me even if it meant they were out of my age range. I can honestly say I am truly disappointed in them and think they should listen to me when I tell them that an age difference beyond 7 years makes me uncomfortable. Technically, they could fulfill their end of the  contract to me by offering up men who are all over 50, and if I turn them down, that's my problem. I'm not saying that they'll do that, but they could, based on what she said.

Now, on the other hand, I did have a second date with "date #5". While we had a good time, and conversation was easy, at the end of the date he said "I had a nice time but I'm getting more of a friend vibe". It's ironic to me how two people can perceive a situation so differently. I always felt that friendship was the best foundation for building a romantic relationship.  It's disappointing because of the 5 dates, he was the easiest to talk to and had a lot of great qualities. 

And so, the search continues.

Monday, April 11, 2011

We'll see....

Well, I was supposed to go out with date number 5 again this past weekend, but that got rescheduled to this week. Now I firmly believe that it really wasn't a ditch, since we rescheduled and all, but we'll see.

In the meantime, I haven't taken my name off the available list at IJL just yet, and they called last week to tell me they had a new match for me. And then stated that he was just a little out of my age range. Now, knowing my age range is 2 years younger and 5 years older, what would you think is "a little out of my age range"? Did you say 7 years? How about 10? 12 maybe?

Well, those guesses are all incorrect. How about 13, yes 13 years older! He's 50. Now, I'm trying to be open minded, maybe he's a young 50, but 50...biologically old enough to be my dad. That just seems wrong.  Maybe I'm drawing conclusions I shouldn't, but it's kinda difficult not to, especially since last week two separate people didn't think I was older than 25. Now I think that's a stretch, but still, two people thought I was 25 (or less).

They haven't called back to give me a time and date...I am thinking about canceling...I mean is it worth it? I really feel like this is some sort of sociological experiment, and not one of those cool ones.

On another note, it is severe weather awareness week this week. Apparently, lightning kills several people a year and is one of the most deadly severe weather phenomena. The advice...stay indoors, or if you're outdoors...don't stand next to anything tall and crouch down. Hmmm....I wonder if that means I can just stand up straight, being only 5' tall and all. I think I'll just stay indoors.

Saturday, April 2, 2011


Well, date number 6 was this past Thursday....and it went well. I debated even writing about it just because I don't want to jinx it.

He seems normal, has a good job, owns a home, has a dog, enjoys baseball, motorcycles, is a good conversationalist, does volunteer work, and is very handy. The conversation was never dull and never stopped flowing. We talked about work, interests, family, our less than great dating experiences through IJL (which resulted in some funny stories), and slight obsessions with cleaning and organizing.

We decided to go out again. So I'm hoping that actually happens. I'm not trying to be pessimistic but I've been here before; it this actually works out I am going to have to write about something else.

On another positive note, my trip to Australia is scheduled. I'll be there for two weeks. I am so excited. I have been wanting to visit Australia for the last 11 years, but have put it off to visit other places. I haven't regretted any of those decisions, but am just really excited to finally be going to Australia. According to my calendar countdown, I have 146 days until I leave. Now, I am not one for wishing my life away, but it's nice to have something to look forward to, especially since work has been so demanding over the past few months.

Well, it's been a fairly blissful day. Got a few things done around the house, but mostly rested and watched the first four episodes of The Long Way Round. Love it. I enjoy travel to remote places, but I can't imagine having the metal to do what Ewan and Charlie did. I am really glad they decided to the project and share it with the world. What a great idea, albeit a little crazy.

"If you immediately know the candlelight is fire, then the meal was cooked a long time ago."